Jeff's Email To Angie...
Below (see) is an actual email that Jeff Capehart sent to Angie Enyedi, which
was maliciously designed and which was supposed to make Angie think me
irresponsible and maybe even a danger to myself and others. When read, it
becomes obvious to the reader that the email had no good intent in design at
all. But when Angie read it she didn't see that because Jeff had carefully
worded it to sound like he was writing it to "help" me. It painted me in
in such an extremely overblown bad light in an attempt to make Angie very
confused about me. I believe that it was also designed to make her frightened
over how the attention seemed to now be graduating from ME, now over to HER, as
well. There is nothing actually "professional" about the email. No one in
their own professional stature would ever dare write something like this
without being fearful of it being interpreted as out of line, and attempting
to delve into business that had no need being delved into. But Jeff wasn't
thinking professionally. He was thinking only of making people doubt and
fear me...and it worked unbelievably well.
It was condescending, rudely composed, spiteful, manipulative, made me sound
like I was paranoid, and like I was a completely irresponsible idiot - while
supposedly in the guise of "friendship". Jeff did not CC me a copy, though.
He sent it to Angie in complete secret. It was composed and sent with the
intention of leaving me out of the loop so as to deny me any chance to defend
myself from what was being said. Had Angie not sent me an "FYI" copy, I would
never have known what Jeff had done behind my back, and I would be left even
further in the dark about why people seemed to be reacting so
badly to me. Conversly, I'm sure Angie probably sees it that had she not sent
me that damned FYI email, her life would not be in such the tangled mess that it
is now in, today. It's become obvious that she apparently greatly exaggerated
to Al much of what was actually going on in Gainesville, and then Al of course
really jumped over the bridge in his overreaction, involving himself personally,
and he ended up causing other agencies and organizations to take actions against
the wrong innocent person. As a result of that a whole lot of other people are
now also responsible in this fiasco, too. It's a mess that just got worse and
worse and worse with each further step. It cascaded way out of control
until we are now where we are, today. Now I'm sitting here really wanting
a full-scale criminal investigation very badly and can't seem to get the police
or anyone to cooperate. But then again, on the other hand too, the perpetrators
want my blog to disappear very badly and can't seem to find any way at all to
effect that without themselves forcing a mandatory investigation and raining a
wrathy shitload of really fiery hail down upon themselves in so doing. Heh. Now
ask me if I actually give a damn about what happens to these horrifically
twisted and terrifying people.
Eh. But now I'm digressing, here.
In reality, Jeff's email was an attempt to manipulate someone that he knew I admired and
respected into pushing me into operating Alachua County Skywarn in the way that
Jeff wanted, using her like a tool. While I'm sure it scared the hell out of Angie
to see someone whom I'd told her was stalking and harassing me now taking aim at
manipulating her, it also made Angie and other NWS employees suspicious
of me and to see me in a completely different light. Jeff's email was intended to make
Angie and perhaps others at the Jax NWSFO believe that I was a "problem", and completely
irresponsible, and that I needed to be "dealt with". Its real intent was to completely
destroy all confidence in me and to cause NWS to stop thinking of me as a responsible
and trustworthy person. It was meant to belittle me from competant human being to
something of a feeble minded, evil enemy. Kind of like how Hitler did with the pamphlets
about the Jews. Once you've belittled your enemy and put them on a lower status, it's
easier to attack them. The obvious sole design of that email was to destroy any confidence
that anyone in NWS may have had in me. While sent under the guise of being "helpful",
there is actually nothing "helpful" in it, at all. I recommend reading it again now
that I've pointed all this out. Ask yourself, "What is the REAL purpose of this email? Is it
to 'help'? Or is it to manipulate an unknowing innocent into trying to coercing the victim
into doing something the writer's way?" Once pointed out, it suddenly becomes more obvious.
And remember too that it was sent surreptitiously - behind my back, without my know;edge. I
would never have known about it had Angie not done the right thing and CC'd me a copy. Had she
NOT done that, I might not have ever understood that these sorts of things were going on
behind my back. So kudos here to Angie for doing that.
But the email was especially frightening to me because it came on
the heels of other people also harassing me: Scott West, Jay Leiberman, Phil
and Melissa Royce, Chris McVey. It came on the heels of all the email bombing,
the pager bombing, the constant phone calls at all hours of the day and night
from assholes demanding that I talk to them or else they'll just keep calling,
people leaving scary messages on my machine, and scary cut-and-pasted SONGS
forming threatening messages, sometimes filling the machine completely up,
threats of harm if I don't keep my mouth shut... Jeff was always claiming to
be my friend but he was always in control of these people, manipulating them,
egging them on. Every time I turned around he was acting like my worst enemy and
doing it in the name of "friendship" and "helping". He was ALWAYS saying that.
But in ths supposed name of friendship he was encouraging an awful lot of people
to believe that I was some sort of a real serious, deviant problem that needed
to be dealt with immediately. "Gaslighting" is a good descriptor for what Jeff
was doing to me. My stalkers were always trying to convince people in EM and NWS
to "take care of" that Todd problem. (WHAT "problem"?! No one ever really
explained this!) And this email was one more thing in that long line of things.
But this time it was huge. It was the second time Jeff had sought after
attacking someone I thought was important to the local Skywarn program. (The
first time was with my newfound friend Alisa.) And the problem wasn't that Todd
was raping, molesting, pillaging, burning, stalking, harassing, killing, maiming,
hacking, destroying, or even just plain being MEAN to people. The problem,
according to the below email, was that I wouldn't go downtown to the EOC when
Jeff wanted me to, and to man some position there and "coordinate spotters",
(...Which actually shouldn't even be HAPPENING during hurricanes.) The problem
was that I was taking care of my mother (she had cancer and I was living with
her at the time), and he didn't like that. The problem was that I wasn't giving
him enough time in the day, and he didn't like that. ...And by golly! Someone
had BETTER take CARE of that! There was no real, actual logic to his email,
but nobody caught it. He tried to throw people off by using words to
try to conceal his real intent behind doing it "for my own good", as a "favor"
for me, to try to "help" me...and people in the NWS apparently fell for it. It
was childish, immature, and if examined very closely it would have been noticed
that it served absolutely NO actual useful purpose at all.
Most of all, though...that email showed Angie that she was now no longer
out of the crosshairs of my stalkers. She was now fair game to it all, too.
This email confirmed it. Now Angie was being forced to make a decision: "Who do
you believe?" Angie chose...Jeff Capehart and the Alachua County ham radio
operators. It wasn't ethically her job to do that. It was inappropriate for her
to do that.
The email was completely out of line. ...COMPLETELY unnecessary. It served no
real "honest" purpose at all except to cause malicious havoc. I mean really...
what "good" person truly sends stuff like this about a "friend" to people in
professional environments and thinks that it won't affect his reputation or
how they see him from that point on? ...And just how was the NWS supposed to
react to it? It is composed of 100-percent insult and humiliation. There is no
friendship in there at all. What friend writes something like that about
you? Seriously?
To the NWS, this just appeared like infighting, and something that they
didn't want anything to do with. Unfortunately for me, the NWS made a leaping
guess and assumed that since so MANY hams were apparently complaining about me
that *I* must have been the central problem, and all they wanted to do
was end the problem. But they guessed wrong, and only ended up causing me more
problems, instead. And when I then tried to complain and make it all stop, it
only got worse. And down the line, it even caused me the loss of a home and the
rental income that went with it. It went too far.
Jeff obvioiusly did not expect that Angie would actually forward me an "FYI"
copy of the email. This makes me wonder if he's been doing this for longer than
I'd realized. And from the way so MANY people were beginning to act towards me
- everywhere AROUND me, that was becoming a painfully obvious realization.
This email was a definite attack against my sensibility and credibility and
was obviously designed to even make me appear as dangerous if you look closely
at it. It was obviously designed with no good intent in mind. It especially
caused NWS employees to think me utterly incompetent. That's not the act of a
friend.
Jeff is extremely intelligent. He's no dumbass. I refuse to believe he never
saw what this email might do. He knew exactly what it could and might very
well do to me and the Alachua County SKYWARN program. Friends don't write
emails like this unless they want to destroy someone's good name. If Jeff had
written a similar email about you the reader, I doubt you would have agreed
with him, or thought him doing something to actually try to help you. At the
time that he wrote this email, this was a year-and-a-half-old argument between
he and I. And it was long done with. It had no business being placed in Angie's
lap, now. The entire email reads like a spoiled rotten little brat trying to
convince "Mommy" to take his side or else "punish" his little brother if he
doesn't comply. Unfortunately, NWS completely missed that. Jeff had no
business sticking his nose into my personal and professional affairs like this.
After this email to Angie, things rapidly started going downhill from there.
The relationship between NWS-JAX, and ACOEM, and me and ACS, fast went south.
Jeff turned on the anti-Todd campaign even harder once he'd discovered that I
had found out. And he found out when I royally reamed him a new ass hole for
what he had just done to me.
The way Jeff put everything in the email, and by attempting to do it behind my
back, in secret, it was designed to leave me no opportunity to defend
myself, painted me as a completely irresponsible moron, accused me
of having "responsibilities" that I just never actually HAD, and that I wasn't
obligated to perform either, and as if I was refusing to cooperate with
Emergency Management or to involve them, or like I never ran nets, or as if
the world would collapse in fact if I myself didn't run them. It was completely
ridiculous. There were other people assigned specifically with the task of
being net control stations, for example... and they were always shirking their
duties. Jeff was one of them, in fact! He told Angie, someone I greatly
respected at the time, that I was living with my mother - and left out the
explanations as to why. He just said that I lived with her and my cat, as if
I was some sort of low-life scumbag. My mother had cancer at the time, and I
was taking care of her. That was quite cruelly and deliberately left out.
Jeff touts the email as being sent as a "favor" to "help" me. In fact, I
think everyone will agree that had he sent this email to someone in
professional circles about them, they would have kicked his ass and not
given the asshole any time to explain it. There was no call for it.
It was wholly inapprpriate and unnecessary and unfair. It was designed to
humiliate, to embarrass, and to destroy Angie's (and ultimately NWS-JAX's)
trust and belief in me.
This is the most immature, irresponsible email that I've ever seen come from
someone who is supposed to maintain a professional and courteous
conduct at all times - from someone whose wife is constantly bragging about
his IQ being so high...someone who should know better. This is not
someone looking to work with me, or to help me. It's written by
someone working against me, in defiance of me, and stabbing me with a knife in
my back. It exemplifies perfectly the complaint I've always had about how Jeff
repeatedly makes attempt to sabotage my relationships with people and
professionals. He antagonized Scott West and Jay Leiberman into attack my
friendship with Alisa, too. He personally sent emails to people in Shands
Communications, Gator Paging, local Emergency Management, the Florida Division
of Emergency Management, and in ARRL circles, too, so as to try to make them
doubt in me. This email was the last straw. It's the one that finally broke
the camel's back. I'm glad that this one particular email never got lost.
After this email, I immediately canned Jeff as Assistant Coordinator of Alachua
County SKYWARN. He had gone too far. I couldn't believe he had done that.
What an ASSHOLE! I was tired of constantly fighting with the man, and constantly
having to apologize for all of the things that he got me into and dealing with
all the trouble that he'd caused me. He was not able to get along. He was not
able to take orders. He had to do things his way or no other way, and if I
refused to do things his way, he attempted to sabotage me and my relationships
with everyone around me. In Hitleresque fashion, if he couldn't get his way,
he would attack me, and try to burn all my bridges - bridges I'd worked
years to try to build with everyone! I was tired of it, and of all his
gaslighting. He was history, and I told him so.
Imagine this email being written about you. How would you have
handled it? How would you have felt if your own subordinate had
written it behind your back to people you were supposed to work with and have
a smooth-running relationshiup with? Would you can him? Or shoot the
asshole?
The first email (see) is what Angie sent to me. The following two (see) are ones that I
sent back to her in reply...in completely humiliated apology. I was aghast.
I couldn't believe he'd sent that. I couldn't believe he'd just BETRAYED me
like that. Oh my god. This email STILL upsets me, even today. This thing
had ZERO business ever being sent at all. There was no real good purpose to
it. Sending it was just outright WRONG. It contained OH so many lies
and exaggerations! Jesus CHRIST!!! How do you fight
against something like this? What are you supposed to SAY to someone who
receives an email like this? Oh my GOD! What the HELL! And the
thing is...Jax never RECOGNIZED what Jeff was doing, either. Not ONCE. Every
time he pulled this sort of stuff, he was able to charm people into believing
that he was acting in my best interests, while people began to think that I was
such an ungrateful bastard. And there was nothing that I could do
because for some odd reason he always had all the power, and I had none, and
was not able to convince people otherwise.
And you know what? Even the attempts to explain even worked against
me. What Jeff did was completely unfair, and utterly loathesome.
In the following days, I had canned Jeff, and written emails to Angie, Al,
Steve, and Dave Donnelly regarding who was actually in charge of ACS. It was
suddenly now apparent that Jeff was attempting to cause confusion and fear.
I advised everyone that Jeff had been fired and that he was considered a
problem and that he was no longer allowed to act in any official way
regading Alachua County SKYWARN.
From: Angela Enyedi
Sent: Friday, June 10, 2005 4:42 AM
To: Todd L. Sherman/KB4MHH
Subject: [Fwd: Re: Hurricane Evacuation Plan for Todd]
Attachments: Re_ Hurricane Evacuation Plan for Todd (4.95 KB)
Hi Todd,
I don't want to be involved in this; it is not for us (NWS) to
decide. I am forwarding this to you because I mention you in my
response to Jeff, and I don't like talking behind people about them. I
realize that there are many motives for his email to me.
Take care of you and yours,
--Angie
From: Angela Enyedi
Sent: Friday, June 10, 2005 4:38 AM
To: Jeff Capehart
Subject: Re: Hurricane Evacuation Plan for Todd
Hi Jeff,
It's great that you are looking out for Todd, but he is well aware
of the dangers of staying in a mobile home during a severe weather
event. We (NWS) broadcast the life-threatening weather hazards, and I
know that Todd is constantly monitoring forecast information. It is
ultimately up to him and his family what course of action they wish to
take during an event. Skywarn and net operations take a back-seat when
life-threatening weather is imminent. Perhaps the club (AC Skywarn) may
wish to address the issue of the location of the net during a long-lived
event, but first priority, of course, would be everyone's safety. I
believe that these issues are for you to discuss with your friend, and
with the club, and not for me or the NWS to intervene.
The last Skywarn class was another great success; we had 75-80
people attend, after a late start. I am so sorry about you and Susan,
and very thankful that you are both ok.
As always, thank you for being a member of our Skywarn team. We
appreciate your reports so much.
--Angie
Jeff Capehart wrote:
> Angie,
>
> I am writing to you because I think Todd might listen to you. I have
> talked and talked and talked to him about this but he doesn't listen.
>
> Last year, during BOTH tropical storms that affected Alachua County
> (Frances and Jeanne), Alachua County put out a voluntary evacuation
> order for residents in low-lying, flood-prone areas and residents of
> mobile homes or other structures not of rigid construction.
>
> Both times, Todd spent the "hurricanes" at home, at his trailer, in
> his mobile home park, with his Mom and his cat. He refused to leave.
> He wouldn't even leave when encouraged and cajoled. In fact, Todd
> even predicted that the storms would be "nothing" because the eye
> would be passing 50+ miles away, and that we have had 35 mph winds
> before during regular afternoon t-storms. What actually happened was
> 2-3 days of non-stop wind blowing, 9 inches of rain, thousands of
> trees down, 60,000 customers out of power, 20,000 customers lost
> phone/cable/Internet, 500 structures damaged, and 3 people died. For
> several hours during the height of the storm, the NOAA weather radio
> was offline and the reports that I personally relayed from the EOC on
> our emergency communications net were the first way to get the word
> out of the weather watches/warnings.
>
> Luckily, nothing bad happened to Todd, though. His MHP was largely
> spared any damage except a neighbor's poorly constructed awning. He
> didn't even lose power, but he had a lot of power-flickers. He did
> not have a working UPS so when he tried to be "Skywarn Command
> Center", he couldn't do anything because the power blips kept bumping
> him off. So there was never a "Skywarn Net" established.
>
> So, rather than do something rational, like evacuating, and reporting
> to the EOC or the UF Amateur Radio Station (both of which have
> hardened facilities, reliable power, high speed network, UPS's on the
> computers, TV/radio, phone lines, and base station amateur radio
> transceivers), he decided to just hang out at home. He actually
> claimed there was nothing Skywarn could do during the hurricanes anyway.
>
> During Jeanne, it was basically the same, except that Todd actually
> DID lose power for more than 24 hours. Then, he was forced to leave,
> but only after the storm had passed because it got so hot and
> miserable. I think he ended up at his brother's house.
>
> Do you have any suggestions for Todd? Or any Skywarn / storm stories
> about how Skywarn did a great job during the Hurricanes? I think
> Todd needs to hear about those.
>
> He is quite embarrassed when I tell people that the "Skywarn
> Coordinator" basically rode out the storms in a trailer and couldn't
> run a Skywarn net. But he tries very hard to defend himself by saying
> it wasn't necessary to have a net, that it wouldn't have done any good
> anyway. Plus, he says he has evacuated before and he doesn't like the
> shelters and he doesn't want to get stuck on the highway. He lives
> with his Mom and his cat and she is paranoid about it all and doesn't
> like to be left alone.
>
> Todd has no hurricane evacuation plan. His plan is to just wing
> whatever might work at the time he is forced to make a decision.
>
> Also he tells me that he doesn't like being cooped up in an EOC for
> hours and hours, or in a small cramped radio station. However, these
> facilities are HUGE compared with some of the smaller counties out
> there! Plus they have access to restroom, water fountain, Microwave,
> fridge, TV, snacks, and the hospital has a cafeteria downstairs!
> There is even a huge heavy glass "picture window" for watching the
> winds and rain blow from the 11th floor! Still, that's not good
> enough for Todd. In fact, he doesn't even own a set of rain gear!
>
> I'll spare you all the rest of his idiosyncrasies about not wanting to
> be controlled by Emergency Management, or the Fire Department, or even
> the ham radio clubs. I wouldn't have a problem if he actually ran a
> net, or had net controls who could and would run nets, but Todd seems
> less interested in the Amateur Radio aspect of Skywarn and the Skywarn
> Net operations, and instead focuses only on the initial training class.
>
> Let me know what you think, and if you think you can help encourage
> Todd to do the right thing. I know its all volunteer, but I'd like to
> hear your opinion on what kind of interaction there should be with
> Emergency Management, operating Skywarn nets, and extreme situations
> like Hurricanes. If you are coming to "Get Ready 2005" on June 18th,
> Todd might be there.
>
> Sorry I missed the May 25th class in Gainesville. My wife Susan and I
> were in a car accident that evening and spent 7 hours at the SHANDS
> Emergency Room. We're OK... it was mostly just whiplash, but it
> affected Susan more than me. We both ended up with stiff necks for
> several days...
>
> Thanks,
> Jeff
From: Todd L. Sherman / KB4MHH
Sent: Friday, June 10, 2005 10:01 AM
To: 'Angela Enyedi'
Subject: RE: [Fwd: Re: Hurricane Evacuation Plan for Todd]
> Hi Todd,
> I don't want to be involved in this; it is not for us (NWS) to
> decide. I am forwarding this to you because I mention you in my
> response to Jeff, and I don't like talking behind people about them. I
> realize that there are many motives for his email to me.
> Take care of you and yours,
> --Angie
But those motives don't actually exist (the 'concern for Todd' motives - I
know what you're getting at, above).
This was solely an effort to try to make me conform to his wishes.
Angie, I'm so REALLY sorry. PLEASE believe me. I didn't mean for this to
affect you, too. :( I don't know what to say. I wish I could make these
people stop it, but I can't. I ASK them to...REPEATEDLY. I BEG them to. But
they won't let me go. I don't know what to do.
I've discussed this with Jeff before and I guess Jeff just didn't like my
answers. My mother didn't want to leave because she just didn't like the
shelter scene and so I decided to stay with her. She's also been in the stuck
in traffic scene, before. So evacs were out. As well, I've told him before, I
don't like being under lockdown in the EOC. Period. I hate that place.
As far as nets, he fails to answer one important question: Why is Todd the
only one who must run nets when Todd has so many Net Control Stations assigned?
People seem to have this attitude that Todd and only Todd can run the nets.
Aside from that, what GOOD does a SKYWARN net do in a hurricane situation? I'm
not putting spotters out in the field in 75+ mph winds and rain and flooding.
Jeff once told me that he wished I'd tell him flat out my opinions because
then he'd just let subjects die. Well, I've TRIED that with him before and it
never worked. He'd NEVER just "let it go" as he says he would. Instead, he'd
HARP and HARP and HARP trying to get me to CAVE to his ideas and opinions and
such. So I usually just ignore his emails nowadays, and I largely leave many
of his questions and ideas and opinions unanswered and ignored beause I know to
answer them will only start a long, drawn out argument over how stupid I am not
to take his ideas.
We had this argument before and at the end he admitted that it was mainly
just because he thought I should be a member of everything that HE is: ARES,
RACES, ACFR Reserves, ARRL, etc., etc., etc. I just didn't want THAT kind of
public service involvement or commitment or obligational level in my life. He
couldn't accept that and he wanted me to be with him in everything...there by
his side, holding his hand. Since I refused to join to that level, he touts
that I'm irresponsible to everyone, behind my back. And he also likes to make
sure everyone around me at every public situation understands how Todd stayed
in his mobile home during a hurricane. He COULD let it alone, let it be, keep
it quiet, and to try to save my face, being the supposed "friend" he says he
is. However, he just CAN'T let that go. EVERY public appearance he makes with
me he just HAS to bring that up.
Now it seems he's resorting to tactics of personal embarrassment in front of
people whom he KNOWS that I respect and admire in order to get me to cave to
his opinions and wants. I've TOLD him this in the past how much I admired you
AND Alisa, both. I can't hide YOUR email address because unfortunately it's
all over the web. But Alisa's I could keep secret for as long as I could.
However, I'm sure he already knew because Jeff's a web guru and he knows how to
use search engines, anyway. I DEFINITELY DON'T share anything about the life
and/or status of Alisa and I with him. I will NOT TOLERATE anyone turning on
my close friends and making fun of them simply because they don't like me. So
I don’t give people the chance to even try. I keep everything about them radar
dark. He's admitted to me that he also has special scripts running which
notifies him when I hit certain UF web pages, so he can keep tabs on where I am
and what I'm doing on the web at any moment. (He bragged about it once, not
realizing that if he'd said that to anyone ELSE?...those people would probably
be very scared.) I stopped visiting those web pages. (For example, I used to
leave my browser on our AC-SKYWARN main page. It refreshes every five minutes.
He has a script running which tells him when my computer name is connected to
Alachua FreeNet, and when it hits the AC-SKYWARN page, and other web pages. He
does this to keep tabs on when I'm home and, to him, when I'm "available" to do
other things. It would often be the case that if I visited any of those pages,
soon after that, he'd call me.)
I can't believe the fucking asshole PULLED this. This is COMPLETELY out of
the blue, too. We seemed to be getting along so well, lately. I even noticed
how he's seemed to be deliberately TRYING to use non-negativisms when emailing
me, and an increased attempted use of reverse psychology on me. :) But I
don't KNOW where THIS came from!
I don't think he, Susan or Scott will be satisfied until I've put a gun to my
head. I sometimes think they must actually WANT that. I mean...are they
TRYING??? How much of this crap do they think human beings can TAKE before
they break? Or are they just trying to sadistically experiment and find that
OUT?
You know...I had a recurring fear (that I was always putting aside for being
overly paranoid) that Jeff's wife Susan might pull something like contacting
ALISA to try to convince HER just how BAD a person Todd was in order to ruin my
relationship with her so as to hurt and emotionally destroy me - much the same
as Jeff just pretty much just did here with you in this case. It was never
really an actual daydream. It was always a nightmare that I'd have while I was
sleeping...one that I could remember.
I have to admit that I didn't expect this to happen coming from JEFF,
HIMSELF. I didn’t see that one coming at all. I keep seeing Susan in the
background in my mind, though ... egging him on. I wonder if that's actually
how this happened.
But the fact that that bad dream has now actually come TRUE scares the hell
outta me...and it really weirds me out knowing that I called that one so RIGHT
ON CORRECTLY so far in the future like that.
Why do these people try to hard to make me feel like I have to get out of
Dodge in order to make them happy? WHY do these people STALK me so in the ways
that they do? (I don't expect you to actually answer that. I was just
complaining. (sigh)) :(
Well, that probably about clinches it, right there. By now, you probably
want NOTHING to do with me at ALL knowing I have friends like THIS. You're
probably SO disappointed in me, right now...if not scared to DEATH over what's
going to happen next. Personally, I feel like I wanna die, though. I can't
believe he said that to YOU of all people. He KNEW how I looked up to you. He
KNEW! And he pulled this, anyway. That FUCKING asshole! GOD, I wanna fucking
HIDE, now! I wanna DIE! I can't BELIEVE he tried to use EMBARRASSMENT to get
me to do what he wants.
I'm SO sorry that he even involved you like that.
I'm not even going to say anything to him about it. I'm just not ever
speaking to him again. I guess it's time for me to quit GARC, now. However
(sigh), the EMWIN equipment is there. And I know that if I do that, then Jeff
or Susan will only try to push it through the GARC meetings that "Todd's
abandoning his responsibilities for the EMWIN Project and doesn't want to deal
with it anymore; and so, we should offcially take it over and take
responsibility for it since he quit the club and doesn't care because that's
just the way that Todd is." ...Catch-22. I can't ever win.
Alisa has told me that I need to just dump him. However, it doesn't work
like that. It's not that easy. He'a a member of everything that I am. He
participates in every thing that I do. I cannot avoid him short of completely
dropping the ham radio hobby altogether, throwing away my ham radios, and
quitting all the clubs that I'm a member of. But I can't stop him from being a
member of SKYWARN, either. So there's nothing I can do. I'm stuck. I can't
get away from these people. (It's the same with Scott West and Susan, too.)
Alisa tells me that I let these people get to me too much, but I don't think
she fully understands...I can't AVOID them. I don't MAKE them do the things
they do. They do it THEMSELVES. And they won't STOP. IGNORING them doesn't
work, either, as some have touted I should do. In fact, it just makes them a
thousand times WORSE.
Alisa thinks the reason they act like this is because they're jealous of the
good thing that I have done with SKYWARN and now they want to bask in my
spotlight - to try to use my own hard work over the past 8 years with it to try
to make themselves look good...and take some credit for it. Now they want me
out of the way now that the hard part is done.
In actuality, I dunno the psychology of it all. All I know is that they
won't leave me alone; they press me and they refuse to leave it be; and now
they're resorting to attempting to ruin my credibility and face in front of
people they know I respect.
I've been dealing with this from Susan for three years, and she
surrepetitiously uses Jeff as her own hand extended (and to stay out of the
spotlight, and thus out of the way of the trouble). She gets him all worked up
all day over something and then he comes to me about it and I can almost "see"
the arguments she has with him over me just beforehand as he speaks. When
she's not encouraging Jeff to do her dirty work, she pulls it directly herself.
She'll start in, and go until she's almost gone too far and people's heads are
starting to turn, and then she stops and goes into hiding - waiting for the old
student membership to leave and the fresh new ones who aren't AWARE of what's
going on to come in. That's how she's survived this long. She doesn't usually
pull the shit too much at GARS because the membership is just too regular and
after a while they'd have to ask "What's up with that? That's CRUEL what
you're doing!" And she'd have to answer questions, then. So she doesn't pull
it too much in front of GARS. She knows better. Meanwhile, she holds all
these positions now in both clubs and everyone thinks she's such a good person
for her public service efforts. They have no clue.
I'm so sick of it and I don't know how to make them all stop. I can't. And
I've complained to the clubs before but they don't want to hear about Todd's
stupid complaints. I'm ignored. To them, I'm just a man whining. It doesn't
matter whether it's real or not. It's not their responsibility. I mean, what
would I have them do? Impose PENALTIES and SANCTIONS on their members when
they violate organizational rules and public harrassment laws? Sheesh!
Pfbt! Doesn't matter, because as I complain people just roll their eyes and
think "Great, another paranoid schizophrenic," and they turn away and ignore
me. Nobody listens.
I truly DON'T know what else to do aside from going to the police and having
restraining orders and C&D orders made. It's now getting THAT BAD. Oh but
wait. You need PROOF of harassments, I would think. And the way they do it
most of the time, there's never any physical proof.
As it is, I AVOID most all GARC and GARS activities because of Jeff, Susan,
and Scott; and I don't participate in the ARES (or any other nets), either. I
try as hard as I can to avoid these people on the air and in person if I don't
HAVE to deal with them, because they're SUCH a scary, living pain in the ass.
Per Alisa's advice, I am trying to distance myself from these people and
unfortunately it means pretty much dumping my favorite hobby. It's not fair.
I'm going to be a bachelor ALL my fucking life because of people like this
STALKING me and making sure everyone who means something IMPORTANT to me KNOWS
just how STUPID and USELESS and IRRESPONSIBLE and how much of an IDIOT *TODD*
is! And they just WON'T leave me ALONE! I'm sick and TIRED of it!
...Three YEARS of DELIBERATE, UNENDING, CEASELESS, CONSTANT, PUBLIC
harrassment! I've HAD it!
Maybe I've barked up the wrong trees all this time. Maybe what I need to do
is make legal threats to the clubs themselves to take REAL action and FORCE
these members to knock it off - or else. I HAVE complained to BOTH clubs
before about it and they both ignored it. I made it known at a GARC meeting
once about Scott, and I pleaded to them over Susan's incessant harrassments of
me in public and BEGGED them nearly to tears to take action to stop it; and
I've taken it also to the GARS Executive Board regarding Scott. It went
ignored, and it never got mentioned in any minutes. Maybe I can use that to my
advantage. I know they don't want to talk about these dirty little laundry
goings on, and they'd RATHER avoid admitting that they're happening. HOWEVER,
it's starting to get bad, now. It's getting out of control and I'm being
forced to find alternative means of getting the job done, now.
I don't give a rats ass what everyone's stupid, immature, nonsensical,
personal pet peeves and problems are with me. It stops here. I draw the line
at people CALCULATINGLY interfering with my personal and professional
relationships with others in order to try to make me cave to their personal
opinions/wishes.
I DON'T know how else to handle this. It's not FAIR that I have to put up
with this and that NO ONE will even bother to stop and ask ME what the problem
is - everyone just assumes these idiots must have some sort of a defacto good
reason to act like they do towards Todd; so everyone just let's it continue,
thinking me the jerk or something.
I dunno. All I know is, no one ever bothers to take any steps to help STOP
this stuff even when they see it happen in front of their own eyes. It's the
most amazing thing you ever saw. And I'll walk into rooms and they'll do this
to me and then when I start to complain people will just roll their eyes and
walk away like they think I'm nuts or something. You wouldn't believe it
without seeing it happen yourself. It's incredible. You feel so helpless, and
without any hope. These three idiots have such complete and total POWER and
CONTROL over my life, and the way that others interact with me. It's not
right.
Todd
From: Todd L. Sherman / KB4MHH
Sent: Friday, June 10, 2005 10:53 AM
To: 'Angela Enyedi'
Subject: RE: [Fwd: Re: Hurricane Evacuation Plan for Todd]
It's unfortunate that he involved you like this and I'm TRULY sorry, Angie.
Honestly. Please forgive me. Please believe that if I knew how to make these
guys stop, I would.
He's done this completely out of the blue. I had no clue it was coming. And
lately he's been acting so good, too.
(sigh) You're probably CLINCHED on the idea that I'm someone you don't want
to associate with, NOW. :( ...Not with people who would go as far as THIS.
I'm so embarrassed that he pulled this. But obviously, that's exactly what
he wanted.
I sent a longer response to your other email account. You'll wanna grab a
coffee before you read it, though. :(
Todd
> -----Original Message-----
> From: Angela Enyedi
> Sent: Friday, June 10, 2005 4:42 AM
> To: Todd L. Sherman/KB4MHH
> Subject: [Fwd: Re: Hurricane Evacuation Plan for Todd]
>
> Hi Todd,
> I don't want to be involved in this; it is not for us (NWS) to
> decide. I am forwarding this to you because I mention you in my
> response to Jeff, and I don't like talking behind people
> about them. I
> realize that there are many motives for his email to me.
> Take care of you and yours,
> --Angie
>
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